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Asking for Money and Watching Him Provide, guest post by Hannah Davis

May 1, 2013

Grateful to present this guest post from current clients, Chris and Hannah, who are finishing the fundraising stage of their adoption.

Thank you so much for sharing, Hannah!

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I have a hard time asking people for help. So when I was in Bible college, I quickly ruled out World Missions as an option for my life, mostly because of the fundraising.

God thinks it’s really funny when I say I won’t do stuff. So about 8 years into marriage, the Lord asked us to plant a church (which involves fundraising). And more recently, He asked us to adopt… More fundraising.

While asking for money still isn’t one of my favorite things, I have learned some concepts that helped me navigate the process. I’m going to debunk some common lies that adoptive parents could be tempted to believe.

Lie: People gave me money for the adoption, so they will judge me if I spend anything on myself.

In reality, raising money for adoption often goes on for a year or more. You cannot stop life. Sometimes you just need to go out for coffee with friends, even if you could brew a pot more cheaply at home. And your jeans with holes have to be replaced, no matter what.

I think this is especially important when you have small kids in the home. If you make life restrictive for them, just to save money, they will see adoption as more of a burden than a blessing. Do you buy a membership to the Zoo every year? If that’s important to your family, then keep purchasing it.

This isn’t saying you should spend flagrantly. There will be places you can find to cut back. But the last thing you want to do is bring a new life into a family that is stressed about money. You will be better adoptive parents when you live free from worry and fear of what others think.

People that give to you love you and won’t begrudge you life expenses. Or they don’t know you, so they have no idea that you replaced your vacuum cleaner. Either way, they aren’t asking you to live in poverty.

Lie: Because I’m raising money, I can’t be used to give to others.

It might seem wise to hoard every penny you get. Giving money (or resources) to others might not feel like an option when you’re in the throes of fundraising. However, being a giving person is actually the BEST thing you can do.

When we first began the adoption process, we met another family that was raising money for an international adoption. They told us how they still sought out ways to give to other adoptions. One of their methods was to split the proceeds of one of their fundraisers with another adopting family.

When you display this kind of generosity, it actually attracts people to give to you, because it’s much more joyous to help an unselfish person accomplish their dreams. It also positions your hearts in a place of humility that literally invites the Lord to pour out blessing.

Lie: Other people have hearts of stone, because they won’t give to my adoption.

When you believe passionately about something, it’s hard to understand why others can’t catch the vision. I think it is tempting to set expectations on those around you, because of how you perceive their financial situation or how much you think they love your family.

It can be easy to get bitter when they don’t “come through” and give the way you expected.

When these thoughts dominate, it often means your faith for finances is placed in the wrong source. People cannot be the focus of your trust. Jesus is the one who provides and He’s the one who speaks to hearts.

Believe that He will inspire the people who He’s called to partner with your adoption. If you thought someone would donate funds and they don’t, maybe it’s because Jesus isn’t calling them to give. Maybe there is someone else He wants to use.

I think the big picture for fundraising is this: Kill worry and fear; It’s not from Jesus. Rest in Him; He WILL provide.

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  1. May 1, 2013 7:20 pm

    WOW. The timing of this was so incredibly perfect it took my breath away. Me and my family are taking a huge step of faith in opening a Youth Ministry Outreach and we really thought the support would come but it just hasn’t. Yet. And this: “It can be easy to get bitter when they don’t “come through” and give the way you expected.When these thoughts dominate, it often means your faith for finances is placed in the wrong source. People cannot be the focus of your trust. Jesus is the one who provides and He’s the one who speaks to hearts”

    Thank you so much for that. It went right to the core of my soul and reminded me that it is NOT man we are depending upon to see this mission become a reality but God. Always God. He is the one who called us to it and it IS the one who will see us through it. Amen.

    Thank you for your obedience in writing this. It blessed me beyond measure today!

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