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“Dear Mothers-in-Waiting” by Misty Snyder

May 11, 2013

Post by guest blogger, my dear friend and client, Misty (originally posted May 2011)

When I look at this picture of my daughter and I, I cry almost everytime. It reminds me that my sorrows have turned to dancing. My mourning has turned to joy. God has given me Mercy, and He makes no mistakes!

My husband and I were matched with a Birthmother in September, 2010, after many, many months of waiting, and believing God to bring us the child He had purposed for us through adoption. Our baby was to be due in January! To say God stretched us during that waiting time is a huge understatement! God ALWAYS makes us wait for a purpose and I believe its to draw us closer to Him. Through my husband’s leading, we began seeking hard after the Lord and asking Him to refine us! Refining is not fun, nor easy! There were many circumstances in this adoption that allowed for God to indeed refine. We had to be on our knees daily begging for the Lord to sustain us and carry us through! HE IS SO FAITHFUL, and He did not abandon us! He was true to His Word as it says in Jeremiah 29:12-13a “In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for Me wholeheartedly, you will find Me. I will be found by you,” says the Lord.

January came! Our Birthmother went into labor and we prepared to go and get the baby we had so long waited for. But, God was not done refining! There were some difficult things going on regarding this adoption, we sought the Lord, and instead of leaving immediately as we had planned, God said, “Wait.” Within moments we went from joy to despair! My heart ached to hold that Baby and tell him how much he was loved and cherished! But even more than that, my husband and I desired to obey God, and so we waited. Because He is always faithful, He once again revived us through His Word. Psalm 62:5 says, “Let all that I am wait quietly before God, for my hope is in Him!” We wanted so desperately to fight to have that Baby in our arms, by the Lord told us to be still, wait, and rest in His plan! By the way, that is NOT easy, but the Lord gives rest when we choose to walk in HIS ways! When we got the call that the birthmother had changed her mind about her adoption plan, we knew that the WAIT was his protection.

On February 6th, almost a week to the day that we got the call about our Birthmother being in labor, we received another call. Our agency called to say they had a beautiful baby girl who was born and her Mother and Father could not keep her. The agency had been presented our profile and the Birthparents had chosen us for their daughter! If we wanted this little baby, she was ours!!!! Once again, we went before the Lord, begging Him for wisdom. You see, we felt like if we said “Yes” to this little girl, we were abandoning the first baby. Once again, God proved Himself faithful and revealed to us that this little Girl was to be ours, the one He had purposed for us since before the foundations of the earth!

A verse God gave us at the beginning of our adoption is Psalm 28:6 “Praise be to the Lord, for He has heard my cry for mercy.” The Lord heard our cry for a child, and He answered. This little girl we named Mercy, which means an act of divine favor or compassion! She is God’s Mercy to us, sent from His arms to ours. God makes NO mistakes! Our daughter, Mercy Annalyn, is the baby God has always purposed for us! He allowed for us to pray for and love another little baby for the time He ordained and then, He gave us Mercy according to his plan!

This is my first Mother’s Day and my heart is feeling so many things. I am overjoyed because of what God has done, but I pray I will never forget from where I came! I pray I will never forget year, after year, sitting in church on Mother’s Day Sunday weeping tears of despair. I will never forget God’s arms wrapped tightly around me, whispering, “For I know the plans have for you! They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope!” If you are reading this and you’ve suffered a failed adoption, my heart aches for you, but I want you to know that God holds every tear you’ve cried in His bottle! His plans, though sometimes hard, are far better than our own! I also believe that we wait so that the blessing will be that much greater! That is SO true in our lives with the blessing God gave us in Mercy! She is far greater than we ever could have imagined, and I believe its because we waited, believing God to bring us His very best in His very perfect timing! So, Mother’s-to-be, know that today your Abba is holding you and preparing for you far better than you can imagine! Keep waiting with great expectation of what He will do!

Psalm 40:1-3 “I waited patiently for the Lord to help me, and He turned to me and heard my cry! He lifted me out of the pit of despair, out of the mud and the mire! He set my feet on solid ground and steadied me as I walked along! He has given me a new song to sing, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see what HE has done and be amazed. They will out their trust in the Lord!”

Love,

Misty

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